I know as a teenage girl growing up in London that life as a teen can have many great moments of stress, misery and general unhappiness, as well as good times. When we are adults though, and look back on our teenage year, I’m sure that all of us will want to see happy memories, and not despair. Now, obviously, the way for this to happen is by being happy.
Being happy in itself seems so simple, but it can be a lot more complicated then it sounds, especially since being a teenage girl alone is difficult. I tried breaking teenage happiness into a few fundamental points which you will probably need to experience to achieve true happiness.
- BE YOURSELF- In society today, teenage girls are full of labels and images of who you ‘should be’, but being yourself is much more important. You must be happy with yourself and know who you are trying to make happy before actually achieving happiness for yourself.
- VALUE YOUR FRIENDS-You must value and spend time with your friends to have fun, laugh and also have people who you trust. Not only will it make you realise that it is not only you who is going through unhappy teenage years, but friends are people who you can share happiness with by making memories.
- FIND A PASSION-‘Finding a passion’ may sound like something that changes your life and is a massive decision that you have to take on, but really, even though it could lead to bigger things, it is just something that you love to do. Whether it is dancing, cooking, wrestling or playing the banjo, it can really help you become happy.
- ALONE TIME-I am definitely not saying that all teenage girls should isolate themselves by locking themselves in a room and be alone until their eighteenth birthday-no! I just mean that everyone needs some time (maybe just five minutes a day), where they can just think and reflect on who they are and how fulfilled they are with their lives at the moment- How can they become happier?
- EMBRACE YOUR FAMILY- Your family are the people who brought you to this world and who will always be there for you, despite all of the fights and different opinions that you think take over the love that is always there in your family. Having your family there for you will probably give you a sense of security, which can leave you to enjoy other things more, leading to greater happiness.
- ACCEPT THE EMOTIONS-This is a huge concept which many people find hard to grasp, but what I mean is that your body must welcome your emotions like a guest house. Even the emotions that you don’t like (e.g. sadness) should be welcome to your body, as you must understand that these emotions will soon leave, making space for new and different emotions.
- KEEP A JOURNAL-If you don’t like writing then you can find another way to let your emotions out, like writing songs of doing art, but for me, a journal is a perfect way to get the tension inside your body onto paper. It gives you a sense of satisfaction, and takes a lot of weight off your body, leaving much more room for happiness.
- TAKE A BREATH-Teenage girls tend to hear something they don’t like and react immediately, whether that is walking away or firing a comment back. Taking a breath and giving some time to think before you react will lead to much better decisions which will help you become happier as you make less unnecessary mistakes.
- KEEP LEARNING-As teenagers, we sometimes think that we know everything, and so rebel against our parents and others, but if we widen our minds and let ourselves learn, we will be able to reach happiness more easily.
I know that these are not all the aspects that will lead to becoming a happy teenage girl, but I feel like these would be the most useful ways to make your teenage years happy and memorable.
See you soon
Gx
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