Take a risk…

Sometimes we look to the future and think ‘but what if…’. We worry about doing thinks when we don’t know what will happen and if there will be consequences, but we have to take risks. When we look back on our lives, I’m sure we would all much prefer to look at the past and think ‘I can’t believe I did that’, not ‘I wish I had done that’.

Taking risks is part of all our lives’ journey, so, to live a fulfilled life, we must take them. Overthinking things makes our lives so much more complicated than if we just lived it, accepting ourselves and the actions we take. Remember that taking leaps is fine, and the absolute worst that can happen is that we ‘regret’ taking that move, and feel unhappy. Now, firstly, you would never have known that the risks would be ‘mistakes’ if you hadn’t taken them in the first place, and anyway, you can only learn from your mistakes. Secondly, you should not regret anything, especially the things that make you smile, as they cannot lead to anything worse.

In the future, you may look back on these memories and laugh, or you might look back and cry, but this can only add towards the person you will become.

Staying ‘safe’ and just playing by the ‘rules’ will just make your life unexciting and boring. What would you be saving yourself for if you didn’t take these chances. If you don’t accept these opportunities, you won’t get anywhere in your life.

To reach your true ambitions, you must take risks. Meryl Streep, one of the most amazing actresses, who had always dreamed of being an actress, went to an audition and was told that she was ‘too ugly’ for the part. Meryl Streep could either let that ruin her dreams and stop acting, or she could take risks and try harder. She chose not to listen to that one opinion, and in the end she has been nominated for nineteen academy awards, which is more nominations than any other actor or actress in history.

This shows how important and valuable risks are, and how taking them can only change your life for the better.

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Gxx

True Friends…

We all know how complicated it is being a teenage girl for many reasons, one of which being friendships. Especially in our teenage years, we begin to create friendships that will stay with us for life, but also sometimes even the closest of friends can grow apart. A friendship is supposed to be a relationship full of trust, respect, honesty and kindness, and having a friend who you share these qualities with is a wonderful and vital thing. Every person should have someone who can always be there for them, but sometimes, the people you think you can trust turn out to be those who make you feel upset or just naturally distance themselves from you.

Huge conflicts between friends can end a relationship, but also make it seem like the biggest thing in the world. The truth is that one day, we are all going to move on in life, realising who our real friends are, and making new ones.

Now, all friends have moments of disagreement between them, so it is not all conflicts that ‘end friendships’. What I mean by huge conflicts are times when something comes between you and your friend, and you realise that this person is not a true friend who you should waste your time with. So many people are going to jump in and out of your life, and that doesn’t matter-it is a natural process for everyone.

Something that we don’t always realise but is really important in a true friendship is difference. All of us are different, inside and out, and so we cant keep expecting too much from others. For example, if you have always helped your friend in her down times, and then suddenly one day you are having a bad time, and she doesn’t offer to help you, you shouldn’t race to a conclusion and be upset over the lack of respect she is giving you, because she is different. She may not be trying to be rude, that is just her character. Life is not like that anyway, with people doing  exactly how you would like them to. We must also remember that what we see is only other peoples actions, not their intentions.

I think that a true friend is someone who will respect you for who you are, sharing trust, honesty and kindness while staying by your side, despite the conflicts and differences between you.

I hope this helped with realising and valuing your true friendships!

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Gxx

9 Ways to be a happy teenage girl

I know as a teenage girl growing up in London that life as a teen can have many great moments of stress, misery and general unhappiness, as well as good times. When we are adults though, and look back on our teenage year, I’m sure that all of us will want to see happy memories, and not despair. Now, obviously, the way for this to happen is by being happy.

Being happy in itself seems so simple, but it can be a lot more complicated then it sounds, especially since being a teenage girl alone is difficult. I tried breaking teenage happiness into a few fundamental points which you will probably need to experience to achieve true happiness.

1. BE YOURSELF- In society today, teenage girls are full of labels and images of who you ‘should be’, but being yourself is much more important. You must be happy with yourself and know who you are trying to make happy before actually achieving happiness for yourself.
2. VALUE YOUR FRIENDS-You must value and spend time with your friends to have fun, laugh and  also have people who you trust. Not only will it make you realise that it is not only you who is going through unhappy teenage years, but friends are people who you can share happiness with by making memories.
3. FIND A PASSION-‘Finding a passion’ may sound like something that changes your life and is a massive decision that you have to take on, but really, even though it could lead to bigger things, it is just something that you love to do. Whether it is dancing, cooking, wrestling or playing the banjo, it can really help you become happy.
4. ALONE TIME-I am definitely not saying that all teenage girls should isolate themselves by locking themselves in a room and be alone until their eighteenth birthday-no! I just mean that everyone needs some time (maybe just five minutes a day), where they can just think and reflect on who they are and how fulfilled they are with their lives at the moment- How can they become happier?
5. EMBRACE YOUR FAMILY- Your family are the people who brought you to this world and who will always be there for you, despite all of the fights and different opinions that you think take over the love that is always there in your family. Having your family there for you will probably give you a sense of security, which can leave you to enjoy other things more, leading to greater happiness.
6. ACCEPT THE EMOTIONS-This is a huge concept which many people find hard to grasp, but what I mean is that your body must welcome your emotions like a guest house. Even the emotions that you don’t like (e.g. sadness) should be welcome to your body, as you must understand that these emotions will soon leave, making space for new and different emotions.
7. KEEP A JOURNAL-If you don’t like writing then you can find another way to let your emotions out, like writing songs of doing art, but for me, a journal is a perfect way to get the tension inside your body onto paper. It gives you a sense of satisfaction, and takes a lot of weight off your body, leaving much more room for happiness.
8. TAKE A BREATH-Teenage girls tend to hear something they don’t like and react immediately, whether that is walking away or firing a comment back. Taking a breath and giving some time to think before you react will lead to much better decisions which will help you become happier as you make less unnecessary mistakes.
9. KEEP LEARNING-As teenagers, we sometimes think that we know everything, and so rebel against our parents and others, but if we widen our minds and let ourselves learn, we will be able to reach happiness more easily.

I know that these are not all the aspects that will lead to becoming a happy teenage girl, but I feel like these would be the most useful ways to make your teenage years happy and memorable.

See you soon

Gx